Updated: Feb 5
During a consultation call, I always ask, "What does success mean to you?" I often hear the very same thing in the next few sentences. "I great job", "A great relationship", "Being Rich" "Having a nice home, car, and family" You all know the typical answers to that question. But when I dig a little deeper with my clients, I am delighted to hear some of the most fascinating answers. What I do hear, are things like: "Being able to send my kids to college" "Owning my own washer and dryer." "Being comfortable in my own skin." "Honestly, just being able to save money would mean I was successful." "Being happy." "Not worrying about someone I know seeing where I live.' "Being able to walk around the mall without having to sit and rest."
You see, we all have this great idea that society helped to form about what it means to be successful in life. A great spouse, owning a home, having 2.5 kids, a dog, and/or owning a business. However, if you really take time to look at it, each and every one of us has our own idea of what it means to be successful.
I had a client who spent 8 months working toward a goal of owning her own business, only to finally get in touch with her true self and realizing she didn't want her own business, she just wanted to make a difference in people's lives, and still be able to pay her bills.
Once she really connected with who she was and what she truly wanted, she realized that just the idea of owning her own business was so stressful it was putting her in a place of procrastination and self-sabotage. When she was able to define success on her own terms, her stress was gone, her joy was lifted, and she started working on ways to help others that did not include owning her own business.
It's been two years now, and she currently works a desk job that takes little to no energy from her, and she focuses the excess energy on volunteering in places where she feels she can make a difference. She feels that she is now leading a very successful life.
There is a huge disconnect between what we are told is success and what we really feel is our own success. Take some time to really think about what it means for you to be successful. Dive deep my friends, dig into your own personal realms and find what success really means to you. Because when you find that, everything you do will truly be action steps in the direction of your own true success.
Quote of the Week
"Define your own success, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you're proud to live"